How I surprised my husband about our IVF Pregnancy outcome?

I am posting this out of popular demand. :o)

I have received many nice emails and comments about my IVF process and pregnancy. I always get the following question: "how did you tell your husband you were pregnant?"

I told him we were pregnant on Easter. I purchased plastic Easter eggs and in the Easter eggs I wrote "surprise we are pregnant" on little pieces of paper.


There were many tears of joy and pure relief that we were pregnant and could put the IVF medication and doctors behind us.

Guess what we are having....

I am going the SUYL at Kelly's Korner this week.

It's A Girl


I know it has been a long time since I last posted. I apologize for this. It is part pregnancy brain and part just plain busy. I am busy nesting!

But we found out the gender! It's a GIRL. I am so excited for my little baby girl to arrive. I can't wait to meet her, she is such a blessing in my life.

A male's view on infertility

I really enjoyed reading this article on a man's perspective about a male factor infertility. As you know we had a male factor. It think this article gives a lot of hope.

Heard baby's heart beat for the first time

Yesterday, was a truly amazing day. I heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time. I am so in love with this little baby. It took my breath away and was total music to my ears. I am praying for all of the women trying to conceive. I know how hard it can be waiting and not knowing.

1st trimester testing

I have had a few tests in the last few weeks. I had another blood pressure monitor and had some blood work done. Since my pregnancy is high risk they are doing extra tests on me and the baby.

Happy Memorial Day!

I said a prayer this morning for all of our brave men and women- past, present, and future service members.

Lots of updates...

Since my last post, I have had:

  • 2 more HCG blood tests

  • 2 ultrasounds to see baby and heart beat

  • graduated from IVF to a regular OBGYN

  • having a lot of the 1st trimester symptoms

I am currently in my 8th week of pregnancy. My tummy is round and it is getting harder and harder to hide my tummy. I started to show pretty early on.

I have a maternal fetal specialist appointment coming up in two weeks. I am just so happy and excited about all of the changes that have occurred in my life and my body since finding out that I am pregnant.

More Maternity Clothes Ideas

I am going to use the following websites as ideas for my maternity wardrobe:

1. Olian Maternity


I just love the black leggings, high heels, and yellow pattern top look. I am going to mimic this style by purchasing maternity black leggings and a tunic top like this one.


I like this blouse and the shorts with the high heels. This will be great for the summer.

I am pregnant...


I found out on Thursday, April 21st at 10 am that I am pregnant. The nurse from the IVF center called and left a message on my cell phone. I was at work so I had to get up and go to the bathroom because I started to cry out of pure happiness. Then I left early to surprise my husband.

We are so excited! The next day I went out and purchased the changing table that I wanted. I know it is weird but I already had the crib and I really wanted the changing table.

My next appointment is on Monday to make sure that the HCG level is still increasing.

I'm Pregnant, I'm Not Pregnant

Have you ever tossed around in your mind "he loves me, me loves me not" when you liked a guy? Well, for the past week I have been doing that about being pregnant. One minute I think I am pregnant without a doubt and the next minute I am preparing myself for the worst news of not being pregnant. This 14 day waiting period hasn't been as bad as I previously anticipated. However, I am scared about the actual blood test. That test is final. There will be no more guessing whether I am or am not pregnant. I will have to deal with whatever emotions come after that blood test. I will make sure to describe every feeling that I have here on my blog.

Embryo Transfer

On Friday at 12:31 pm, my doctor with the help of a nurse and the embryologist transferred one embryo into my uterus. It was an amazing day. They projected our embryo up on a t.v. screen before the transfer. The doctor said, it is a beautiful embryo. Then my husband said beautiful just like my wife. It WAS the sweetest moment. I will never forget it and I will always cherish that moment. The grade of our blastocyst was AB. They said this is a good quality embryo. I will go back for a blood test on April 21st to find out if I am pregnant. I can't wait. I am just so happy. I am currently on bed rest and just watching t.v. and reading and letting my husband bring me everything! :o)

Fertilization Report


For the past two days, I have been receiving updates about our embryos. On Monday I learned that we have 3 embryos. They retrieved 14 eggs, 6 were mature, and 3 turned into embryos. We have 3 little embryos. I am so happy that they are doing so well. I love them.

Egg Retrieval

Yesterday was my egg retrieval. It went well and they were able to retrieve 14 eggs! I was scared and nervous about the egg retrieval because I didn't know what to expect. But it ended up being easy and uneventful.

I am just taking it easy today and waiting for my fertilization report.

I will keep you posted!

Under the influence of hormones...

Beware I am under the influence of hormones and I am doing daily monitoring appointments now. So far my experience with IVF hasn't been that bad. I have been getting good reports on my growing follicles and giving the shots each night hasn't been that awful. However, yesterday disappointment reared its ugly head again. I thought my HCG trigger was going to be last night and I was mentally preparing myself for a Saturday, April 2nd egg retrieval. But then I got that dreaded phone call from my nurse that said one more day of shots and come back in the morning for ultrasound and blood work. I thought I was going to jump out of my skin, one more day of ultrasound and blood work! That is not what I wanted to hear. Then I realized that the only thing I wanted was to be in control and I wanted this whole process to be over. I am beginning to realize how much I love being in control. I have controlled everything in my life up until this point. It is all out of my control. How will my body responds to the drugs? How many eggs will they retrieve? Will the eggs fertilize? Will this be a successful cycle? Will I get pregnant? It is all out of my control. I don't have the answers and I just have to wait and see how this story plays out. Disappointment is a right of passage while doing IVF I am convinced. It is like running a marathon and trying to get to the end and seeing the finish line but it is still 5 miles ahead. I still have 5 more miles to go before I see how this story ends or cycle ends.

Lupron Shots

Currently, I am on day 8 of my Lupron shots. I got my period today and called the doctor's office to schedule a monitoring appointment for tomorrow morning at 7:15 am.

The rest of this post is for memory sake so that I can remember how I felt before and after my first Lupron shot...

Last night, I had a restless night's sleep because I was anticipating my first Lupron shot. I asked my husband to wake up early with me in case I couldn't give myself the shot. I continued to wake up each hour starting around 2 am. At 5:15 am, I got up and started to prep everything for my first shot. Then one, two, three I stuck myself with the needle. It was easy, quick, and painless. I was surprised how easy it ended up being. I told my husband that acupuncture is more painful. Then the sting and bump that resembled a bug bite formed in the location that I administered the shot. Since, I was so emotionally exhausted and still dealing with the time change (spring forward) I went back to bed.

The Lupron shot has been making me feel like an old, old, old lady. My joints hurt and I ache all over my body. I have had sharp pains in my side, left breast, and left leg. I am feeling bloated and my body feels like it is preparing for a pregnancy. But I am willing to endure and sacrifice it all for a baby.

I am just excited. I can't believe in 18 days from now I could have an embryo inside of me. :o)

Lupron Shot

I got my first IVF medicine last week from Freedom Ferility. They sent me a two week supply of Lupron and it cost $129.

Here is a video showing how to give the Lupron shot and other medications:

How do you make a baby smile?


I think any baby would smile with these on the end of your camera. I am going to buy a couple of these. I love taking pictures and plan to take a ton of pictures of my future baby.


Cute Little Crochet TEDDY BEAR Newborn Baby Hat


I am looking for cute photography props for my future baby. I love supporting creative businesses so I have been looking on Etsy and I found this shop:

adorable hats


Our Costs for IVF


I had an appointment yesterday morning at 7:45 am to test for an LH surge and do another vaginal sonogram. After the sonogram, I paid our full amount for the global fee on my credit card.

1 Cycle of IVF is: $8,533.00 for us

Yes, I put $8,533.00 on my credit card in one charge. It really didn't feel any different than charging $1.75 for a drink. However, in my heart I felt different. I felt lighter. I felt like I really made the right decision for myself with our payment options. I am ready to get pregnant. I am confident. I am excited. I am being positive.

Around 3 pm I got a call from my nurse, I had surged already (so much for that ovulation kit because it didn't work for me at all) and that I will start my first Lupron shot on March 14th.

LH Surge and Finances

Since February 22nd, I have been doing the ovulation test and I haven't seen an LH Surge yet. Due to no LH surge I have an appointment on Friday, March 4th to do a blood test and vaginal sonogram again.

We also will be paying for our first cycle on Friday, March 4th. We are deciding between doing the global fee or the shared risk program. I have been emailing our financial counselor some final questions about the fee structure.

So far the costs that we know about are the medications:

My medication per cycle will cost- $1,455.15. This cost can range between $2,000 and $6,000 so we are relieved that our medication costs are on the low end.

Surgery Was A Success!

I am happy to announce that my husband's surgery was a success. We now have 3 vials of sperm to use for 2 to 3 IVF cycles.

I am going to explain the day because I don't want to forget these memories. I had a restless sleep the night before and I wasn't feeling very well because of the flood of emotions that I was having throughout my body. However, we both got up at 4:14 am the morning of his procedure and started getting ready. We left the house at 5:10 am and got to the facility at 5:30 am. We arrived early because we didn't know how traffic was going to be. Luckly, there was a doctor arriving early for surgery and he let us in and up to the fourth floor. We waited in the waiting room for another 20 minutes.

Then our name was called with a group of other couples. We all walked back in a big herd to the pre op area. We were in section "C" and his surgery was scheduled for 6:45 am. I was so relieved that I got to go back with him to be supportive. I was worried that they would just leave me in the waiting area. He had to undress and put on a pink gown, blue booties and a blue hat over his hair. He got to keep his socks on which was good. He had to sign all of this paperwork and while he was doing that the anestigologist came by to start his IV drip and ask him general health questions. Dr. B, the one who performed the surgery, also came by to talk with us and talk about the procedure once again. What an amazing doctor?!

My husband is such a good patient he wasn't nervous at all. At 6:45 am, they came by and had him walk down to the operating room. I was waiting in the pre op area until a nurse said that I needed to leave. By 7:06 am, Dr. B came out to the waiting area and told me that my husband is producing sperm and they were able to get 3 vials worth of sperm which will be good for 2 to 3 cycles. I was so happy. I just wanted to hug the doctor! We will be getting gifts and cards for all of these wonderful doctors who are helping us achieve our goal of becoming parents.

Next, I went back in for another 3o minutes to help my husband with his recovery and get him dressed. He was so cute and just continued to repeat things over and over and was so sweet to the nurses. The nurse even said your husband is such a good patient. He was given 2 perscriptions that I filled downstairs in the pharmacy. I had to have him sit down while I dropped off the prescription and be with him at all times. We ended up leaving the facility at 8:30 am and I drove him directly home.

All my husband wanted to eat and was requesting for his first meal was pancakes and bacon. Once we got home, I made him coffee, pancakes, and bacon. After we both ate and I cleaned up the kitchen we just slept the entire day away.

I am so happy that it went well!

I am scared and hopeful...

One more day and then my husband's surgery. I am scared about it. If it doesn't go as planned then we can't start the IVF process for another 6 months. If it goes well then we can start right away. I can't wait any longer. I want to get this process started.

I feel like I am having a tantrum inside of my body. I have been waiting and waiting and waiting...

IVF Blog...

I just found this blog about an person's IVF journey. I plan to read it very soon!

I thought I would share the link with you too:

Hangers For Baby Clothes


I just fell in love with these hangers. I am going to buy some of these when I find out the sex of our future baby.

Here is the link to her store.

IVF Cycle Begins and Surgery

Today, marks day one of my menstrual cycle and IVF cycle. I will start doing the ovulation test again on Sunday, February 27th and will return to the office on March 2nd or 3rd for a vaginal sonogram and blood test. I am so excited that this is all beginning!

My husband is going in for surgery on Thursday, February 24th. I am just praying for him and that everything is okay. This was an unexpected date for his surgery. We thought we had more time to prepare for it but the doctors said Thursday because of surgery times and schedules. I will be preparing for that this week and taking off from work on Thursday and Friday to be with my hubby.

Last Thursday, we met with my maternal fetal specialist and our nurse Toni. I just think the world of Toni. She is so sweet and makes me feel wonderful each time I talk with her. At this appointment, they ordered more blood tests for me to do because strokes and heart disease run in my family. Especially, since a family member of mine had a stroke after giving birth when she was 27. They are being extra cautious with me because of my high blood pressure and heart condition. He was also interested in doing a 24 hour urine test, however, thankfully I already did that test. I will need my primary care physician to send those results to Toni.

This morning I went to do my blood work and they took 6 vials of blood. I couldn't believe it. Why so much blood I was thinking and asking? She said that they need to freeze some of the blood for the test. Oh my! I was craving a peanut butter sandwich after giving that much blood. I went home and made a sandwich and then went to work.

Stay tuned for my IVF updates...

Genetic Testing

I went ahead and decided to do genetic testing on myself. My doctor advised me to go through Counsyl- a company that does genetic testing. Again, I am a little scared about the results from this test. But I am going to think positively and believe that everything is going to be okay.

So, this test takes about 5 minutes to complete but you can't eat or drink for 30 minutes prior to testing.

What did I have to do for the test?

I was given a kit at the doctor's office. I took it home and had to wait 30 minutes and then...

I had to spit in a tube for 5 minutes and fill my spit up to a certain level on the tube. Oh my was this hard to do! I had no idea how difficult this was going to be for me to produce spit. I had my husband talk to me about delicious meals while I was rubbing my cheeks and wiggling my tongue to produce more spit. What an adventure?! But it will be something fun and cute to look back on. I closed the tube put it in a prepaid FedEx envelope and dropped it off. I registered the tube on the website and now I am just waiting for the results.

On another note, I am also adding a Testing category to my IVF chapters. One day in the near future, I am going to summarize all of the tests I have down in the past 4 months. There have been a lot!

Pregnancy Highlights Ideas


I love reading Kelly Korner's Blog and I love how she does weekly highlights of her pregnancy and takes pictures. I am going to copy her idea when I am pregnant. I think it is great to document this so you can remember these moments forever. I am going to absolutely cherish every moment being pregnant. I will love it all no matter what!

Here is an example of what I am going to fill out each week of my pregnancy:

I'm #of weeks!

Pregnancy Highlights:
How Far Along: # of Weeks
Size of baby:
Total Weight Gain/Loss:
Maternity Clothes:
What I miss:

New Doctor and Appointment


Do you remember how I decided to make that big decision and switch doctors a few days ago? Well, I did it and I am so glad that I did. I am now happy again. This new doctor is a male the other was a female and he was great. I love his bedside manner and I think I will have a great outcome with him. I can feel this in my heart.

I think if you are having a bad gut feeling about a doctor you should either switch or get a second opinion. That is a rule that I will always live by. Tomorrow, is my high risk appointment with a maternal fetal specialist/OBGYN. I am sure you remember that whole debacle from I just want to be mad for awhile post.

Oh, and the kicker about this new doctor he will get started without that high risk doctor's note because he said the cardiologist's note was sufficient. I am over being mad and now I am happy. :o)

I am getting very excited because my part of the IVF is starting in just a few days. I am just waiting on my period.

I told this new doctor that my two fears of the upcoming part of the process are:

1. Egg Retrieval
2. 12 day waiting period to find out if I am pregnant

I am going to do acupuncture and yoga to get past that 12 day period.

This just seems so surreal now. I may be pregnant come April 2011!

Nursery Ideas

I am collecting ideas and dreaming about our future baby's nursery. I am getting some of my nursery ideas from The Land of Nod.

First, I want all of the furniture in the room to be white.

I like this crib and crib skirt:

I like this idea of a single wall art behind the crib:

I like this changing table (in white):

I like this wardrobe:

Beauty Secrets

Today, I am participating in Kelly's Korner Show Us Your Life Series about beauty secrets.

I have two beauty secrets:

1. Using an eye lash brush to shape my eyebrows in the morning and before going out. I finish using the mascara and then when I am finished I clean off the brush and then begin using for my eyebrows.

2. I love COVERGIRL SmokyShadowBlast for my eyes. If you are interested in this product you can read more about it here. I really like this product because I do my makeup in the car before work. I can make my eyes look fabulous in five minutes with this product and it looks like I spent a lot longer on my eyes.

Newborn (birth to six months) clothing checklist

I found this list as a good starting point for what a newborn baby (birth to six months) will require for clothing.

  • Onesies (4 to 6)

  • Pants (2-3 pairs)

  • Pajamas and/or body bags (4 to 6)

  • Short-sleeve bodysuits with snaps at the crotch (4 to 6)

  • Sweaters (1-2)

  • Winter coat and/or Snowsuit (during winter months)

  • Mittens (2 pairs during winter months)

  • Booties or socks (4 to 6 pairs)

  • Hats (2 to 3)

  • Receiving blankets (3 to 5)

  • Crib blankets (2)

  • Stroller or car seat blanket

  • Diapers (10-12 per day for newborns)

  • Burp cloths (2-3)

  • Shoes are cute as an ornament or decoration, but aren't necessary until the baby is close to walking age.
I think shopping for my baby is going to be the best part. I can already tell I am going to love it.


Last night, I decided to enter the unknown territory by switching doctors. This may push my start date off but I am already feeling better inside. I made this decision for a variety of reasons, however, the main decision came after I did some research online and started to read reviews about my particular doctor. The reviews were mixed but overall the reviews were not good. The experiences that I have had with this doctor seemed to be consistent with other reviewers. Therefore, I decided to end the relationship with this doctor last night. I sent an e-mail to my nurse coordinator about the decision. We will see how she reacts next...

I have decided to add "Decisions" as a label to this blog. I never realized how many difficult decisions you need to make with IVF. Again, this is all new to me.

However, I do believe this was the best decision for me to switch doctors. I was dreading each phone call/e-mail from my nurse and this past Friday's conversation pushed me over the edge. I want to be treated with respect and dignity.

I just want to be mad for awhile...

So, I can't tell you how angry I have been since Friday. On Friday, I talked with the nurse that is assigned to my case and found out that I needed to get another letter of clearance from a high risk OBGYN. Obviously, the letter from my cardiologist wasn't good enough and I need another letter.

I am angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, not happy for a variety of reasons. I will list them below:

1. I feel lied to and misled about the second letter of clearance. I wasn't aware of a second letter of clearance in my initial IVF visit. The nurse "assured" me that they told me of this second letter.

2. I am ready to get started and get this process over and get pregnant. This just seems like yet another hurtle I need to jump over to get the process started.

3. Don't make a woman wait another few weeks when she has already waited 8 MONTHS to get to this point. It just isn't fair.

4. Life isn't fair and I don't know how to deal with disappointment.

5. I feel out of control. I feel like I am just another number, just yet another 30 something girl trying to get pregnant at the clinic. But I am screaming inside because this is all new to me and the outcome is unknown. I don't like not knowing.

A few years ago a friend said the following to me, "some years will take away, some years will give, but GOD never wastes pain." I keep telling myself this. I know in the future I will look over this blog post and feel differently about it. But when you are going through it feels so painful and unbearable.

I have been trying to get my mind off of my pain by going shopping, building a cabinet, and going to acupuncture. However, the acupuncture and meditation brought all of these feelings to the forefront again.

To calm myself down, I got on the elliptical and I am writing this blog post. I do feel better. I feel as if someone out there in blog land is listening and cares or understands the frustration. I will get better and I know that this is all part of my journey to becoming a mother.

I am sure as a mother I will have to deal with disappointment and frustration. So, I will have to face these emotions yet again sometime in the future.

a pea in the pod

Last night, I was out shopping for an Anniversary gift for my husband and I decided to stop in and check out a pea in the pod (this marks my first time going into a maternity store and trying something on). I tried on a few things and received some great advice and guidance on shopping for maternity clothes.

The lady helping me, Maria was so sweet and helpful. She advised:

  • Purchase maternity clothes that would fit you prior to maternity. She said the only thing that should be growing is your tummy. I am praying this is the only part that grows and not my butt too! :o)
  • The tummy/belly bands are great to use with the pants that you already own.
  • There is a fake belly at 7 months in the fitting room that you can simulate as if you were that size while you are shopping for clothes.
I tried on a few pants and some skirts for work. However, I didn't buy anything. But I do have a few things on my "wish list" for maternity clothes.

These are some of the basic wardrobe building things on my maternity clothes "wish list" so far:

1. The Tummy Tube- $26 (want in black and white)

2. ASSETS Marvelous Mama Terrific Tights- $18 (want black ones)

Just for fun I also went into the Ferragamo store and found this beautiful purse that I am adding to my "wish list/dream list". The only problem is that it is as much as a mortgage payment so I need to keep dreaming for now. But it was something fun for me to do to get my mind off things. Whatever works right!?

One day if I own a lot of beautiful purses I am either going to organize them like this:

or like this:

I love the handbags hanging on hooks above the clothes. It looks so organized and very chic, in my opinion, and easy to find all of your beautiful purses.

WPW and High Blood Pressure

My heart hurts.

I have been full of emotion again because I just found out that I have WPW and High Blood Pressure. I will need to see a high risk OBGYN later this month.

I am on Labetalol. I just found this article and it doesn't make my heart happy. I would really rather not be on a drug during pregnancy but I could have a more serious condition on my hands if I don't take blood pressure medicine. I will be discussing this with the high risk OBGYN at my first appointment.

Here is a Mayo Clinic discussion of high blood pressure during pregnancy.

For more general information about heart health check out American Heart Association.

Ovulation Kit

Part of my protocol is to use an ovulation kit. For the last 5 days, I have been using the ovulation test and there hasn't been an LH Surge. No "happy face" on the digital reader yet. I am not sure if the kit is defective or the medication that I take is interfering with the result. I will need to send an e-mail to my doctor to check.

Here is an ovulation calculator to determine when you should start using the test.

Watching Movies

My husband and I invested in a fabulous TV about a year ago and we just love it. I love it as an escape from my stress and we both love to laugh. In a couple of weeks, I will be in a 2 week waiting period to find out if I am/we are pregnant. :o)

However, this waiting period will be difficult for me because I let my mind wonder and get the best of me. You know how impatient I can get from previous blog posts. I am going to plan fun things to do during that two week wait to keep my mind distracted. The first distraction on my list is watching funny movies on our fabulous TV.

Last night, we watched What Happens in Vegas.

#1 Distraction: Watching Funny Movies (during two week waiting period)

P.S. I got a few comments and requests to post more maternity clothes ideas and children clothes ideas. I will post more. I will even make a whole section devoted to these topics. I love clothes so this is no problem for me. :o)

Ideas for Maternity Clothes

Here are a few cute outfits that I like from Old Navy for maternity clothes:

Outfit #1:

Outfit #2:

Outfit #3:

I find myself being cautiously optimistic when I do things for our future baby and my future pregnancy but I am a planner so I am going to plan anyway. I have to stay positive and remain optimistic.

Acupuncture and Injection Class

First things first, if you are going to do IVF you have to get over a fear of needles. Therefore, I am diving right in and doing acupuncture. My first appointment was last Sunday and I am doing weekly appointments with my acupuncturist, Karisa. I love her she is so sweet. At times during this process, I have been feeling that I have no control over my body. The acupuncture is making me feel more in control of my body.

Also, last week on Thursday I had an injection class where I learned about my protocol and what needles I needed to use for my specific medications. It was an interesting class and I met a very sweet couple there as well. It helped with not feeling alone and meeting someone else who is also going through this process. In my next post, I will talk about my specific protocol and my recent diagnosis of high blood pressure and how that alters my IVF protocol. More on that later...

Possible Infection

So, after the Mock Embryo Transfer I started to freak out because I thought that I had an infection. I was in a lot of pain and went to the doctor's to get checked out. I was okay and everything turned out to be just fine. My ovary was just sore because of the position of it in relation to my uterus.

I am in a waiting period right now because I need to get a clearance letter from another doctor for a preexisting condition that I have. This weekend I have an acupuncture appointment for general stress management, a nutritionist appointment, and an injection class. This is where I get to learn all about how to give myself the injections and mix the medicine.

Fun, fun, fun!

Good news we are eligible for the shared risk program. You get your money back if it doesn't work after 6 cycles of trying.
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